After about six years of no show, things started to unravel. As is typical in an African setting, Gbadebo’s parents started asking the inevitable questions: What is the problem? When are you going to give us grandchildren, is your wife barren? Has she aborted numerous times and destroyed her capacity to carry a child? It didn’t even occur to them that the problem might be their son’s and not his wife’s.
Things were not going as Sylvia planned either and before long, her faith started to wane. In situations like this, it is difficult to hold on to God’s promises without faltering. She faltered. She started asking questions and doubting the conviction she had years ago before she got married to Gbadebo. Could it be love that blinded me and made me think it was God speaking? Am I sure I’m in the right marriage? Is this supposed to be my fate and life? These were the questions she asked herself.
Before long, her behavior towards Gbadebo started changing. Six years in a marriage without sex and no inkling of there being any change in the near future can wreck havoc on any relationship regardless of the partners’ faith or personal convictions; regardless of the love that they share.
Gbadebo knowing that he could not lose his relationship sought help outside. He approached a notable Christian counselor and divulged every secret to him. The counselor following the leading of the Lord, asked the wife to come along for a session. After talking with them extensively, he advised them to seek a new venture they can embark upon together as a couple and focus their energy and attention on this. He reasoned this will shift their attention from their problems and bring them together in ways that can be more fulfilling in the long run.
Sylvia and Gbadebo, on close deliberation and after seeking the face of God decided to help orphaned children find homes. The adoption culture in Africa and particularly Nigeria is practically non-existent consequently, many families go through or are going through similar situation and they need help while there are many children out there with no place to call home and no families of their own. They started in their own home; they adopted a baby girl and found fulfillment taking care of her even though she was not theirs biologically.
Fifteen years later, Sylvia and Gbadebo testified to the glory of God in their lives. They dedicated their biological children, a set of twins, in their local church. According to them, God smiled on them after numerous years of helping children find homes including three which they adopted themselves. In their testimony, they encouraged people to focus less on their problems and more on how they can be elements and wheels of change in their sphere of influence.
Morale of the story: while helping others, you never know the problems in your life that can be solved along the way. Always endeavor to be agents of change and progress.